If you suppress your pain and sadness deep enough, avoid your tears and hide your insecurities long enough… you will definitely achieve all your goals and master your life!
Bull, right? This could not actually be further from the truth.
When you suppress your hard moments you deny yourself something so, so vital. Doing this holds you back from moving in the direction of the light – the place where you flourish. Instead, the shadow takes up a bigger space in your life and begins to get to work right away. It sabotages your career, love life, health, and your sense of purpose. It robs you of achieving any of the stuff on your vision board.
And the more you try and hide from your shadow, the more it thrives! Just like that yucky mould at the bottom of the veggie draw. The more you try and hide your feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, betrayal, and not being good enough, the more the monster thrives.
I’ve got a doctorate in denying my feelings. (Not literally, you silly kids!) It is rooted in my difficult childhood. But I’ve been working on the unlearning for pretty much my entire adult life. There is a lot to get through!
My unlearning has taught me a couple of things:
- You can’t break patterns you’re not willing to acknowledge
- Self-sabotage ruins relationships and stops us from growing
- You cannot escape your shadow
Only when we finally step up to doing the work do we begin to break free of the cycles of victimhood, procrastination, and feeling like an imposter. That’s when we begin to LIVE!
THANK YOU for listening without judgment and “holding space” for me while I continue my learning and unlearning.
I wish every success with breaking free from anything holding you back from living the life of your dreams.
Thank you again,
Lee
Lee Mayimele - Writer 