When last did you say NO?
As a recovering yes-girl, every single time I do this, I still get goosebumps. No, honestly.
Just last week I said no to doing the social media content for a campaign to help find jobs for people who had lost theirs because of Covid-19. The organisers wanted the job seekers to hold up placards describing their plight and to pose for pictures. The placard captions were to read Hungry. 2 Kids. No Food etc. I knew for sure that not one of the people – who by virtue of the way the dice had fallen in this lifetime – would have been prepared to hold up such a placard (nor would I), and so I walked away.
Then, I also said no to a bully in the family recently. Now, if you know anything about families, no is the ultimate swear word! Don’t you think? But, I was willing to take my chances. This time, I was guided by the fact that my little people are watching and learning and that if I want them to learn how to assert themselves, affirm their boundaries and stand their ground, I am going to have to walk the talk!
Perhaps you’re battling a little bit in this arena too? If you are, here are a couple of things to remember:
- You teach people how to treat you
- No is a complete sentence
- You get what you tolerate
- The only people who get upset when you assert your boundaries are the ones who benefit from you not having any
I wish you love, my friends. And the courage to say NO!