Someone asked me if I believe that we are supposed to be with ONE PERSON FOR A LIFETIME. I responded frankly. I said that I was “not Oprah” so could not offer a Soul Sunday sort of answer. But, my belief was that we did need to be with ONE PERSON AT A TIME. He called me “quite a deep serial monogamist”. I had to laugh! It had quite a nice ring to it.
As far as my statement went. I must say. it was one of those moments when something profound comes out of your mouth and you are left wondering where exactly it sprouted. Did you read it? Did you dream it? Did some romcom plant it? I said “one person at a time” and it did sound rather Oprah afterall.
So there I sat, finishing my cocktail and contemplating fidelity with a feeling that the issue wanted me to sit with it a while. Reflecting and dissecting. And that’s what I did in my morning meditation.
I came to the conclusion that relationships are funny things and that monogamy is indeed a choice. Not an everyday sort of choice, like pizza/no pizza. It’s a call you have to make again and again and, because we’re ever changing spiritual beings living in blood & energy bodies, shit is changing all the time. We are changing all the time. Our partners are changing all the time. Variables are changing and life is throwing us a million little plots and subplots, each with its own peaks and dips. So, who are we to say that our “choices” will always reflect that exact perfect tune which we set out to dance to, when we first commit to being with just one person?
For me, the answer lies in holding to the fantasy. The dream. That vision of ONE person. A shared life. One common plot. Plugging into a central system wired so intricately, that the magnet automatically pulls you both back in when you need it most. (And yes, that last sentence is another such moment when I wonder where on earth those words came from!?)
Today, I am grateful for the inspired thoughts.
Alow me to wish you well on your journey. May you always be guided to make the choices that honour the highest version of you.
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for most no not a chance. best most of us who still try can hope for indeed is a series of serial mongomies eh?